I really want to save my marriage, but nothing I try seems to work!” If that sounds like the thoughts you’ve been having lately, don’t worry, you’re not alone. Whether it’s due to well meaning bad advice or just reacting on emotion, there are thousands of us who’ve made mistakes that just end up pushing our partners farther away.

Once you have an idea of where you might be going wrong, though, you have a much better chance of healing your marriage.

Pressuring your spouse!

It’s all too easy to do when you’re stressed out, but threatening or guilting rarely help matters. One of the most common forms of pressure is begging. You may not get down on your knees and wail, but if you’re pleading, crying, telling your spouse you can’t live without them or that they’ll destroy the kids’ lives, it still amounts to emotional blackmail.

Another thing to avoid is trying to pressure your spouse into counseling. Instead of pushing, appeal to logic. For instance, you might say something like “Considering all the time we’ve invested in each other, isn’t it worth a few hours of counseling to save that?

Apologizing too much!

There’s nothing wrong with apologizing for mistakes you know you made, especially when you have a plan to help you keep from making them again. The problem comes in when you apologize for things you didn’t even do. It sounds insincere at best and mocking at worse. It also makes you look desperate, which is hardly attractive.

More importantly, it doesn’t solve anything. Accept your responsibility for 50% of the problems and acknowledge that you have some issues you need to work out together, but if you mean it when you say, “I want to save my marriage,” don’t take more than your fair share of the blame.

Jumping to conclusions!

Even if you’ve lived with your spouse for decades and think you can read them like a book, you cannot read their mind. Don’t assume you know how your spouse feels and why they feel that way. After all, it’s possible your spouse has been burying certain emotions about your relationship or unrelated events in the past that are interfering with the present.

Dishonesty!

Needless to say, lies do nothing to build emotional intimacy. Whether you’re hiding your feelings, facts about important events in your past, or your financial details, it all goes to drive a wedge between and your spouse. I’m not talking about those little white lies like “No, honey, I don’t think you’ve put on weight.” There’s plenty of room for those. What I mean is something that has an effect on the relationship beyond the next 30 seconds like lying about your needs in the bedroom or for time to yourself.

Waiting and hoping!

This is probably the biggest mistake of them all, yet it’s also the easiest to fix. So many people wait and hope things will work themselves out eventually. In the meantime, you and your partner are growing farther apart and any resentment only grows deeper. Marital problems don’t solve themselves anymore than they cause themselves. To save a marriage that’s headed for divorce, you need to take concrete action now.

If you’ve heard yourself say “I want to save my marriage!” a few too many times, it’s very possible you’re making some of the mistakes most couples make when their marriage hits a rough patch.

Rank #1: Magic Of Making Up - Highly Recommended

Released in spring of 2008, this resource caught our attention for its creative approach to saving troubled relationships.  The author, T.W. Jackson, does not claim to be a professional therapist, but he definitely has some great insights on why relationships fail and how to fix them.  Reading through his book you are sure to experience a few “light bulb moments” where you think of ways to connect his ideas to your own situation.

One of the things we like most about this book is the way it reads.  It feels like you are having a cup of coffee with T.W. as he explains the ins and outs of love and relationships.  Instead of using a textbook approach with big words and no emotion, The Magic of Making Up is more like a mentoring session.  Picture it as sitting down for dinner with your own personal relationship coach.

The Strategy
The first part of this book covers the important parts of a successful relationship.  The difference between what men and women need to feel wanted, and what makes them ultimately give up on their partner.  The focus then changes to your unique circumstance and how to identify exactly why your ex left you.

The heart of T.W.’s book is his strategies for rebuilding the attraction and romance with your ex.  There are several psychological tactics he shares to get your ex to start thinking about you again.  Some involve the way you communicate with them, while others are designed to give you the confidence you need to succeed.

The full plan takes you through the entire of process of getting back together.  From calling them for the first time, to dating again, and all the ways to keep things moving in the right direction.  One of the best chapters covers everything you need to know about your first date back together.  You learn how to ask them out, what to talk about, and how to make a lasting impression.

Overall
This is a great resource for those who want to get back with their ex, but have no idea where to start.  In order to fix a break up you need to gain a mental advantage over your ex.  Not because you want to trick them into loving you, but because you need to get past the negative associations they have about your relationship.  The Magic of Making Up will help you clear these hurdles and T.W.’s lessons on the needs of men and women will keep you from making the same mistakes in the future.



Sensitivity: 5/5                    
Honesty: 5/5                      
Approach: 5/5    
Cost: 5/5               
Our Rating: 4.8/5            
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Rank #2: Ex Girlfriend Guru

This author has an altogether different approach to the situation. This product is primarily directed at women who have lost their relationship with their girlfriend. The SENSITIVITY of this product seems to be one sided.

I have to downgrade this product a bit due to the underhanded approach offered by this author. If you value HONESTY in an individual, then this product has missed the mark slightly.

If you are comfortable with and APPROACH that offers deception as a tool, then you will appreciate this product. The design to undermind the individuals to get them back can be a very successful approach.

The COST of this product is very reasonable and well withn anyones budget. It may be worth a look. Again, if you are looking for a different type of approach, check it out.

Sensitivity: 4/5                    
Honesty: 3/5                      
Approach: 4/5    
Cost: 4/5               
Our Rating: 4/5            
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Rank #3: 50 Secrets.com

The SENSITIVITY of this product lacks the focus of the one on one contact that the other two reviews do. This individual seems to be using this site to promote his next book.

I have to say there is HONESTY in the intent of this author. I found it to be more preventive than what to do now that the relationship has hit a rocky moment.

The APPROACH and COST of this book are both acceptable, however, the approach is formed after those individuals that have been together for quite some time.

Sensitivity: 3/5                    
Honesty: 4/5                      
Approach: 3/5    
Cost: 4/5               
Our Rating: 3.5/5            
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